Resource: Anything that helps you to feel strong, safe, and confident, be it a memory, place, person, faith, whatever.
So I’m not doing to well right now. I mean relatively speaking. I am well regardless of my concerns. But I feel tired, emotional, my eyes are sore for some reason, and my son is giving me attitude today about his schoolwork. Now, I’m not complaining but setting up the scenario under what I want to talk about today.
I noticed myself starting to settle into feeling down and noticed how easy it would be to let myself go even further down. I noticed the little thoughts creeping in my mind that paraphrased, “Poor me”.
Bull.
I choose my thoughts and those thoughts lead to my feelings. Then my feelings lead to my actions. So I have concerns and stresses. I will deal with them. I have support around me. I am loving, intelligent and competent. I have God. With God all things are possible. There are no limits except the ones I impose upon myself. This is me resourcing myself and I will continue to do so and move forward.
Do you teach yourself to be resourceful when feeling down? It’s easier to let ourselves feel down, I know. For years it was what I practiced subconsciously. It’s hard work to resource and snap out of it. But don’t you want to feel better than to feel worse? Isn’t it worth the hard work if it means being in a better place than before? Isn’t that why we work hard to try and make a better life for our families and those around us? It’s the same principal whether we’re working to improve our exterior lives or interior lives.
So as I write this, the strain in my eyes has almost disappeared. I feel confident that God will guide me to the best way to discipline my son, as I will come from a place of love in my decision making. And I have reminded myself that I want to be strong, resourceful, and productive. I have a goal to make a better life for my family. I can’t do that if I’m wallowing, now can I? So I decided, “No. I will not submit to this.” So I began to write and this is what is happening as I process through. Now, the emotional stress is also gone. I have only one remaining concern. On that too, I will do what I can and leave the rest to God. That is all I can do. And that covers everything.
This is an example of resourcing and being resourced. All healing and strength comes from our resources. A resource is anything that helps us to feel strong, confident, or know that yes we can do something. It can be a memory, a thing, a place, our faith, whatever it is that we need. There is no right or wrong on it. What an individual needs to be able to do the good that needs to be done, especially when under pressure, is personal.
What matters is that we practice remembering our resources and calling them within ourselves whenever we need them. It doesn’t matter rather it is for something small or large. The more resourced we are, the stronger, wiser, and better our decisions will be. God instructs us to call on Him for everything. This is what He’s talking about. The more we turn to God and His infinite Love for our decision making, the more peace and flow will be in our lives.
I’m experiencing that right now.
Even as I go to deal with my son and his issue.
Because now, once again, I am smiling on the inside.
I hope you do too.
Blessings,
Irene
