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By H. Daniels

Every person on the face of the earth has a different personality. We all do and react to things differently because we’ve all had different upbringings and different genetic make-ups. However, in order to understand people, we need to comprehend what is going on in their minds. We associate with our experiences. We also lump ourselves into categories to better understand ourselves and others.

Enter, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment. It is a psychometric questionnaire that measures and analyzes how we experience the world by sensation, intuition, feeling, and thinking. By determining the dominant trait (between those four functions), your personality type is distinguished. We’re going to talk about one of those personality types today: INFP.

#1) What Is INFP?

INFP stands for introversion, intuition, feeling, perception and it is one of the sixteen personality types developed by Myers-Briggs. This is actually one of the more rare personality types. People who are classified as INFP tend to be more:

    Quiet and reserved
    Prefer interacting with only a couple people than with a group
    Are more abstract than concrete
    See the big picture rather than focusing on details
    Feel rather than think
    Value personal considerations rather than being objective
    Withhold judgment
    Delay important decisions

So what does that mean? If you are considered to be an INFP, you could find it difficult to relate to others including your man. If you notice that your man has these qualities and is classified as an INFP, this can help you understand where he is coming from. INFP relationships can be difficult but they don’t have to be.

INFP relationships have their own set of problems, just as other relationships have theirs. Let’s check out some of the general personality traits of an INFP relationship to see if we can help alleviate some of the problems that they may cause.

#2) They Are Disorganized By Nature

By nature, people with INFP personality types are generally more disorganized because of their comfort level with freedom, flexibility, and the ability to fly by the seat of their pants. Not only are their personal spaces messy and seem disorganized, by they may also appear to be a bit scatter-brained as well. They always have ideas popping into their heads and don’t have a way to organize them.

Knowing that this what they are like by nature can help your relationship. While, it is no excuse for leaving the milk out on the counter or having a pile of garbage on their desk, you or your man can begin to understand that this is their nature and they will need a little more guidance and effort to help organize their lives.

#3) They Are Dreamers

It is often said that INFP personality types are always in their heads. They are always thinking about new ideas and how they can change things. In their minds (and also in the public) they can be the movers and the shakers in the community: whether it is the art community or their own neighborhood.

So if you see them daydreaming, don’t assume that it is about something bad. If they aren’t paying attention to you during a conversation, it doesn’t mean that what you have to say isn’t interesting or important. Just bring them back to reality. Also, encourage them to bring a notebook and pencil with them, wherever they go so that they can write down some of their ideas.

#4) They Are Extremely Creative

People who are INFP’s tend to have careers or hobbies in the fields of writing, music, art, and even psychology (focusing on the inner workings of the mind rather than more concrete materials). Since they think in abstract ways, they can make the best works of art. The world can be their canvas if you let them.

Encourage your man (or yourself) to have a creative outlet. If he isn’t a writer, artist, or music composer by trade, then try and find his passion. Does he like to draw? Is he a screenwriter? Do you think he could create his own short films?

Also, encourage him to find some friends that are in that field or an equivalent field. If you think he would make a great photographer or videographer, find a fellow artist or writer. They could team up and make some great art, not to mention it would be a wonderful outlet for your man.

If you are having issues with coming to terms with being an INFP, note that a lot of famous people have been INFPs:

    John F. Kennedy
    William Shakespeare
    Fred Rogers
    Princess Diana
    George Orwell
    Laura Ingalls Wilder
    James Taylor
    Johnny Depp

…just to name a few. You aren’t alone and neither is your man if he is an INFP. You or your man must be patient and understanding when it comes to these personality traits and you may find that their inner creative genius will come out because of it.

In addition, being different doesn’t mean that you can’t make your relationship work. If you find that you or your man is an INFP and the other isn’t, all you need is some understanding, patience, and the love to find a way to embrace your differences.